Mother's Day...Just another day?

May 12, 2009 - Tuesday

When Mother's Day becomes just another day
Current mood: breezy
Category: Romance and Relationships

I thought it best to wait and post this particular blog until well after Mother's Day. The sentiments I express in this particular piece may serve to unsettle some complacent attitudes towards what Motherhood actually entails. A Mother is a gift, and unfortunately not always appreciated. If we sit and wait for children, be it adolescent, teenager or young adult to fall over themselves giving their undying gratitude and affection for our undying devotion, then I say "Child Boo." A child's cognitive abilities and emotional growth spurts are better served learning life, and are constantly in the developmental stages. So bashing one's head against the wall wondering why; "my children don't appreciate me", or even yet thank you is to say the least, "a waste of precious time." If the truth be told they are gifts from God, and their primary focus should be to appreciate God. You as the parent, in this case the Mom, are His servant, and your gratitude should be to Him. And, trust me Sista He gives you the gift of life in an outside of the womb.

To those parents who choose to adopt; KUDOS to you, you are God-Sends. But if you choose to tell your child that they are adopted then that decision lays solely with your household. It's not just a child's right to know, but moreso, his/her choice to ask. Please be wise in how you answer. Sometimes telling an adopted child to early on in life their complete biological background might just leave "your" child emotional scarred to soon. There is no way to avoid emotional scarring, but know that time does heal all wounds, especially if you've chosen a spiritual approach and resolution.

To those adopted children, well every situation is unique. All adopted children will experience a sense of loss, whether they meet their biological sibling or parent later in life or never have any knowledge of ever finding or meeting their predecessors, the loss of growing up contrary to the bulk of societal norms can be a challenge. Trust me adopted children whether they grow up in a functional or dysfunctional home, they all have a small to large degree of actually feeling as though "something is missing."

And finally to those parents that choose to give their children up for adoption, well if this is the only avenue for your child to live a life you feel you cannot attend to either at the time of your decision or even now, then at least you chose the best decision for the child. There are too many biological parent(s) that choose death or life, so stop kicking yourself (just in case you are) over an intelligent adult decision.

Why such a blog? Why not? Mother's Day is a day of celebration, but it very well should be a day of celebration every day that Elohim (God) allows you to wake up to the reality that you brought forth life....do the best you can to maintain life. Everyday you should thank God for the gift of Motherhood, whether it's a good day, or a bad day, you were handpicked by God to raise HIS children. There are some who cannot conceive children, or they have lost their parental rights. So Happy Mother's Day everyday that God chooses to grace the earth with your presence.